Why women date other marrieds?
Chat about a loaded subject that no one wants to chat about, that’s it. Amusing thing, extramarital affairs have been going on since millennium. Extramarital affairs can be fraught with evils, cause sorrow, and other harms. Also you should wrap your maind around all the other issues, there’s that truth and sincerety thing, money, age dissimilarity, spiritual upbringing, remorse, and on and on. I expect there will be some strong opinions about some of this.
For the intention of this post I should define an affair as a long term, maybe decades long relationship of a sexual nature between two individuals of whom one or both are married to other persons, adult dating for merried.
Why do women have affairs? There are as many reasons as there are men seeking affairs. I am conserned typically though it is only the human condition, the need for love, belonging, to be wanted and cared for, the caring for others and wanting to be loved and appreciated. Here are a several reasons I have run across.
Physically we as human beings are all sexual beings. Nature has us set up to reproduce, to have sex. Sex is pleasing and fun, and sex makes us get away the world for a brief period of time. This euphoria exists for whatever amount of time we are able to keep the adrenalin levels elevated enough. Somebody can switch the wish on and off, some are excellent at controlling it and others are so-so at best. Though we all have it, young and elder, able bodied and not so able. It is the Human condition. For some of us it is the sex act itself that drives us. For some of us it is the exhilaration of the hunt. For some of us it is the seduction, for some it is the caring for another individual, for some it is the wish to be appreciatedloved, for some it is the entire romance thing. These desires and yearnings can be so strong they prevail over the taboos society has erected against extra-marital affairs. For many individuals the yearnings will beat their doubts and make them risk the wrath of not only their relatives, but society as well. So why, what is the mechanism?
Sex Addicts, possibly some of us are. Sex is horribly pleasant, better then drugs, a natural high. If you are in this group of physically motivated sex addicts and can find away to have sex and not harm your spouse or anyone else? You will need to reduce the jeopardy you are taking. If you have the approach that a good affair is one that is beneficial to everyone, then good luck.
No love at home, or no romance. I suppose this is the largest group, enormous truly. There are many couples whose marital relationships is over, but they feel happy in the manner they live, and upsetting the extended families is not on their list of things they wish to do. You love your other half but there is no romance. Then there are the children to look after. Your savings are so entwined. You need the medical insurance, and so on. There are a lot of reasons to live as a family besides love and sex.
Bodily reasons, there are some people who can not have sex. They have physical circumstances that stop them implementing the sex operation, at least not with their spouse. An extra-marital affair occasionally solves the trouble while keeping the marriage undamaged.
Avoidance, sorrowfully this is a regular reason I fear. One or the other, usually the man is sexually neglecting his woman for a multitude of reasons. As a man I actually am grateful to you guys neglecting your ladies and making them obtainable to us males of romance, making them “milf wives” But I still think it is despicable that you are neglectful. Then there is the spouse who is neglectful until the wife or husband has an affair, then they condemn them for doing so, when they where the catalyst. Those who neglect, then condemn, are not only neglectful, but evil.
Something is just missing in the marriage, I can not put my finger on it, but its not there. Maybe its romance that is missing, could be it is a shortage of love, maybe caring is not here, could be it is the intimacy, could be neglect. Could be we have just grown separately, our relulas interests diverged. Maybe it is that what I want, and what I want to do the rest of my ages, is contradictory of what you want. Could be I simply do not know what I want from the marriage anymore. Maybe, just maybe I miss that sensation that when I am with you, it just feels right.
The major reason people give is, they look for the excitement that is missing and so very much longed for.
There are other reasons, the feeling of power, to get away, for financial gain, for vengeance and so on. I am sure there are more reasons why people have affairs then these. I only stop because if this gets too long no one will read it.
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